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Confidence vs. Competition
Confidence vs. Competition by jcherne featuring hair bow accessories

Fashion has been a constant for as long as anyone can remember, but I can’t help wondering why we dress the way do?

As a girl, it’s perceived that your most likely making outfit decisions to attract the opposite sex… which can be true to some extent, but it is not the sole purpose. If you actually dig a little deeper and ask a girl who they dress for or can’t wait to show their latest accessory – it’s other women!
Fashion is intense and changes literally as fast as you can change your shoes. Through this, women are constantly able to fight to have the latest and greatest styles and trends. The competition becomes so fierce that some fashionistas will do whatever it takes to out dress their competition. There is nothing wrong with wanting something someone else doesn’t have, but it’s important to make sure that, it does not become your only purpose.
So why do we use our clothes, accessories, shoes, makeup, and hairstyles to make other women jealous? Are we really striving for that confidence or are we just in a constant battle of one-upping each other?
I just saw, You Again, for the first time. This movie recently came out on DVD and stars Kirsten Bell, Jamie Lee Curtis, Sigourney Weaver, and Oddette Yustman. This movie was not shocking to me, but kind of an eye opener. Women are downright cruel to each other, just because they can be. No matter how old you are, this gender battle starts at our first social encounter and doesn’t end until our last. Unfortunately, there is no way to avoid this drama between women and I can’t help but think that fashion plays into this scenario.
I would be lying if I said that I have never dressed to impress someone else. I do it on a daily basis, but I like to tell myself that I dress for me and my own personal confidence. For whatever reason, knowing that I am completely put together helps me walk into a room with better posture and a smile on my face.  Tomorrow, when I get dressed in the morning I’m going to think about who I’m dressing for and not try to out do someone else.
There’s a little thrill every time you get a compliment on something your wearing. Find something you like about someone and tell them. That positive comment might make or break their day and it will actually make you feel better for saying something to make another person happy.


  1. IT'S STRANGELY ME March 28, 2011 at 12:43 am - Reply

    I absolutely despise it when men assume that women only dress up to attract the opposite sex. Personally, I don’t care what men think of my style because well, let’s face it, they probably don’t notice the extra detailing on my shoes or how the colors I’m wearing compliment my skin or how the colors I’m wearing contrast etc. Women usually dress up for other women because only they notice and understand your efforts!

    And I agree with you, your style represents you and you want to represent yourself in the best way possible. In doing so, you feel confident and beautiful.

    • Jessey March 28, 2011 at 7:54 pm - Reply

      Thanks for the positive feedback 🙂

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